As Baby R was sleeping and I had nothing much to do, I decided to browse through the forums on mummysg.com.
Reently I found a list of threads dedicated to relationship problems. Reading the threads is like following a drama serial. It is that interesting. Cheating husbands, runaway maids, tyrant mother-in-laws, you name it, they have it. What is more interesting are the advices the rest give.
Your husband cheated on you with a nightclub hostress? Live with it. There is no point being upset and going through divorce as all men cheat. It is best you pretend you have no idea at all so you wouldn't get too upset.
Not being able to conceive? Blame it on the person who sat on your matrimonial bed before you do, because 'you are not supposed to do that.'
Lastly, make sure the maid you hired isn't born in the year of the tiger unless you want trouble at home!
Jokes aside, I learnt to take the content of these forums with a pinch of salt. I used to seek feedback when I had any minor query and follow advices religiously, thinking there wouldn't be any harm seeing that they are all experienced mummies. But soon I realise it is only adding on to my distress, especially with a lot of unsolicited advices. All babies grow and behave differently. It doesn't mean that my daughter would be weaker if she drinks lesser than your son. It is also pointless to compare or worry if she is not teething or crawling yet. Not only it is unhealthy (fancy being so competitive at her age!), it leads to unnecessary worrying that your child is not big enough, not eating enough, not smart enough or just not on par with the others.
I have ever chanced upon a thread started by a lady crying that her two-year-old son fell on his head and he was bleeding. She was seeking advices online. What were you thinking, my dear?! Go to the doctor immediately! What can other mummies help you with behind the computer screens? Plus some advices fellow mummies give will only add on to your existing problem, really.
I read these threads solely for entertainment purposes now, i.e. the relationship threads (some are really amusing). It is still useful if you need to buy/exchange second hand goods or seek reviews on a particular item. But if I am looking for information and issues regarding her development, I read parenting books and magazines. Some websites like kellymom.com and babycentre.com.sg are quite useful if you are a first time mummy and are clueless about about taking care of your little ones (like me!). However for any other non-casual or urgent queries, I think it is best to see a doctor or specialist.
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